
And yet, if you were to stroll around town and have a look--out there on the streets and in the piazzas--things wouldn't seem all that bad. Plenty of Italians wear expensive, stylish clothes; their children are garbed like midget runway models and have all the latest game systems; they drive late-model cars, an increasing number of which are of the luxury variety or benzina-guzzling SUV's; they are able to throw elaborate birthday parties for their children when the cost of one Fisher Price toy runs something like €40 ($52); they take costly vacations to the beach or to the mountains; many eat out at ever-more-pricey trattorias and pizzerias; they smoke--a lot (and cigs cost between $5-6 a pack). Strolling around thus, you might be tempted to think that surely matters can't be very dire at all. You might even be tempted to believe what Berlusconi--that pancake-faced charlatan--was insisting all along, that everything's swell and Italy's economy is as strong, solid, and vigorous as a blowhard politico pumped-up on Viagra.
So what lies behind these disparities, then? I call it the Nonni Economy.

here in Italy; they're the unglamorous, varicose-veined legs on which the entire country stands. They're the grandparents who stuffed their wool mattresses with money for decades, who lived like closefisted clerics, who scrimped and hoarded all they could and avoided debt of any kind. They bought property back when it was relatively cheap--usually crappy ancient apartments with sporadic plumbing or crumbling case coloniche. They darned their socks and knitted their own sweaters. They worked two jobs or more and took care of scores of children and invalid relatives all living under the same leaky roof. Thanks to them, most Italians (that is, those who aren't still living at home with their parents) now have homes--restored, of course--for which they never had to pay (I read somehwere that something like 85% of Italians neither pay rent nor have a mortgage, which is why there was never a real estate bubble to burst). That means extra money to spend on la dolce vita, of course. As a rule Italians still eschew debt, particularly personal debt--but this may have more to do with the national sport of tax evasion and the penurious character of banks than any inbred distaste for owing money. (Leaving a paper trail for the tax man is, for many Italians, like leaving a trail of pork loins for a rapacious wolf).
Some cold, hard facts
If, in considering these figures, you're beginning to wonder how an average family can get by much less demonstrate all the seductive trappings of Italian life on display in the piazzas, you're not alone--I've always wondered the same thing. (And it seems the new PM Mario Monti is wondering, too). For instance, my husband and I really struggle, and I know others in the same boat. We've seen our income dramatically dwindle in purchasing power over the last ten years (granted, we've since had two children, but even given that, we're worse off now than before*). This year we had to forego after-school activities for our kids. We both commute and run most errands by bicycle to avoid the costs of gas and bus fares (anyway, it's healthier and better for the environment, right?). We have one basic PC, two cell phones of the decidedly unsmart variety, a car that is 20 years old (and was recently awarded "antique" status--thereby qualifying us for cheaper registration rates, amen). We took out a small loan to pay for our last summer vacation. We rarely go out to eat or spend on trifles. The lining in my winter coat is being held in place by a safety pin and I haven't seen the inside of a salon in a year. I'm not complaining--it's just the way things are.
But it just doesn't add up, does it? Which means that...
La dolce vita is clearly not about doing the math
Italians tend to perceive well-being in different terms than, say, Americans. Not having much personal debt is part of it, but I think that the biggest thing contributing to Italian complacency is the family--and specifically, all the boons bestowed upon the current crop of citizens by their nonni or other elderly, hard-working relatives.

Italy's low birth-rate certainly contributes to the semblance of being better-off (if you don't have kids or have only one, obviously there's more money to spend on yourself or more to lavish on that figlio unico). But even many one-child households would be strapped if it weren't for the financial safety net provided by grandparents. The ever self-sacrifing elders of the Nonni Economy also provide less tangible benefits, the main one being unlimited free child care for their grandchildren. Put yourself on any street corner or in front of any elementary school and watch the endless to and fro of grandparents shepherding their young charges. They often function as full-time maids as well as babysitters, providing meals and even doing the laundry, ironing, and grocery shopping--a huge help to working parents. In addition, many provide gifts of cash or clothing--or even pay for cars or settimane bianche (ski vacations) for their grown children, and swim lessons and scuba gear for their grandchildren. Mind you, I am not talking about wealthy people--these nonni are ordinary folks who have managed to squirrel away significant savings, accrue zero debt, and have healthy pensions to live on. They have the lifelong habit of near-zero consumeristic consumption (why, merely turning on an electric light is considered an act of fiscal profligacy), which in turn enables them to lavish spending on their far more materialistic (and often more economically pinched) children and grandchildren.
How did they do it again?
As the recent rash of Monti raids has proved, tax evasion in Italy is rampant, pervasive, and often considered a kind of sacred duty--making it, and not Roman Catholicism, the real religion of the Italian people. For instance, it's common practice when inquiring about the cost of a service--say a teeth-cleaning--to be given two options: "85 euro with receipt, 60 euro without." (Now that the sober-faced Monti has put the fear of God into everyone, I'm curious to see if this will change).
So if today--with the albeit lackluster use of credit and debit cards, with computers and electronic banking--Italians are able to conjure financial smokescreens on such an epic scale, imagine what many cagey nonni were able to accomplish in their day? (My FIL, for example, worked three jobs but only ever declared income on one). This is not to diminish at all their hard work and penny-pinching ways--but you have to wonder if, along with a lot of choice real estate, the current generation of Italians has inherited public coffers that were already suffering from acute anemia.
What does all this mean for Italy's future? Given the nature of this Nonni Economy--the fact that frugality seems to be a lost art, that these traditionally selfless nonni will eventually die out--and the zeal with which Mr Monti is pursuing scofflaws, is the current brand of Italian-style "sweet life" a tenable one for the times to come?
Or will Thomas Mann indeed have his day?
Yours,
Campobello
* check out this article on Italian earnings
The inimitable Patricia of Tillie's Tuscan Table is having technology issues (either that or she's drunk) and is unable to post this comment herself, so she asked me to do it:
ReplyDelete"BRILLIANT! Funny, astute ... and oh-so-true. Thank you, Campobello! Looking forward to knocking back some Negronis with you in the Renaissance Retirement Village of our choice."
To which I reply: thanks, my dear, and bottoms up (however saggy they may be)! ;-)
Homerun! Enough to make any sensible nonniless woman living in Italy run to get her tubes tied! Grab Tillie and we'll brown bag it to Florence and dye our hair on the steps of the Duomo. Let me know what L'Oreal color you want--it's my treat.
ReplyDeleteThanks, sweet papaya!
DeleteDyeing our hair on the steps of the Duomo sounds perfect, no doubt you can come up with a color that is suitable Renaissance.
un bacio xo
We would not even consider a move to Italy w/o the support of the "nonni"! Truthfully it scares me to be reliant on others but my Chinese family also does the same so maybe that's why I'm semi-comfortable with the idea.
ReplyDeleteDear og, thanks for commenting.
DeleteFamily support, as far as I'm concerned--whether financial, if needed, or emotional--is ALWAYS a good thing. I would certainly hope to be able to help my own children should they need it (though it's likely I'll be rotting in the Renaissance Poor House eating riso in bianco til the end of my days) ;)
it is mindblowing to me the lengths these elders will go for their children...we have the same culture here with Italian, east-Indian, Greeks, Chinese etc..the kids live at home till they are married and even then until Mom and Dad have saved enough for their down payment on a brand new gigantic house ....as an anglo who had two working parents and didn't live lavish but comfortably and had to get my own summer jobs to save for things I wanted I have to wonder what lesson these spoiled indulged children ever learn
ReplyDeleteand in this day and age like you say how are the next generation of nonni supposed to do it?.....85% don't pay a mortgage?? or rent?? that's insane...how is that possible?
sounds like the whole country is living in a dream world....good luck
Thanks for dropping by, debbie! In theory I think being in a position to help your children or grandchildren is a good thing--but, as you rightly point out, sometimes it can lead to overindulgence. I would hope to be able to help my own children but it is very important to me that they learn self-reliance.
ReplyDeleteMost people I know here (neighbors, parents at the school, etc.) have been given their homes by their parents or grandparents and therefore do not pay either rent or a mortgage. This is an enormous boon, as you can imagine. This real estate was purchased ages ago when prices were far more reasonable and thanks to the scrimping and saving of those prior generations.
I think the next generations will indeed see the (protective) Nonni Bubble burst--much as the real estate bubble burst in countries like the U.S. and the UK. Unless there are some drastic changes, of course--and this is what Monti and Co. is aiming for.
brilliant article, I have always felt like this! and you said it so well in your article. its really hard to be one of the people completely supporting yourself, there is something to be said for being ambitious and possibly moving to another city or country should better business opportunities arise. what i tend to see is people accepting horrible salaries whilst being very educated in order to be near i nonni for the 24/7 help. Dont get me wrong, i love how families are so important here. i have an Italian boyfriend and his parents want us to be there every night if they could but i just feel there has to be a balance. i wouldn't want my future children to sacrifice life opportunities to stay near us and live rent free.. some of the best moments in life are when your young, poor, and living with friends discovering life... boh!
ReplyDeleteThank you, Georgette! I have seen what you mentioned as well: people foregoing opportunities elsewhere in order to remain near families and help. Like you, I understand this and the importance of family ties in Italy (it's sweet on the one hand)--but I agree with you in that life is an adventure which needs to be explored, and risks need to be taken (but maybe that's our expat DNA talking?).
DeleteAgain, thanks for commenting.
You have put into words so many things I think about all the time! And with your signature deftness and wit. I too constantly wonder how all these stylish Italians around me manage to live so very well on such low incomes. Your theory is brilliant. My husband and I are struggling mightily as well, and battling pessimism. One way to do that is by remembering how super lucky we are to have my son's nonna, who makes up for what she can't do financially by giving in just about every other way. I shudder to think what we'd do without her.
ReplyDeleteThank you, Michelle. We, too, have benefitted in the past from a nonna who helped out by watching the kids, enabling me to work outside the home. It would not have been possible otherwise.
DeleteSometimes I also think that--because of the ready availabilty of nonni--social programs and legislation aiding working mothers/families has NOT been a priority in Italy, as it has elsewhere in Europe. Any thoughts?
Totally!! (Sound of blog post stewing).
DeleteGood! I look forward to reading it :)
DeleteI'm staying in Florence at the moment (having been mostly an expat for the last 3 years in Barcelona) and I really enjoyed your take on this. I love hearing these background stories you would never get without having lived in a place for a long period of time. Awesome!
ReplyDeleteThank you!
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